Summer '10

And it seems like nothing will ever just be nice to me.
I'll be nothing short of awesome, and that essentially gets me no where, other than on good terms with myself. But maybe that's what I should be working for. I should be working towards doing good things for myself.

This summer, this past relationship, i've learned a few things. One of the most important being that I can be beyond amazing to someone, give them everything I have to offer, but that will never be an affective way to sway someone. Because the truth is, if I feel I have to do that to keep someone around, if I feel they don't like me enough on my own, without me dishing out everything, then no amount of spoiling will make a difference. It's just not how that works. At the end of the day, if another person doesn't want to be with me, and only me, then they won't be. They will cheat if they want, to get a quick fix, they will flirt and tease other girls, they will not give you their all. That's all very discouraging, yes, but I don't think I would want anyone else to sugar coat this for me; It's simply fact weather i want it to work that way or not.

Another lesson, well, people don't care. And the people who don't care about you, shouldn't mean anything to you. If they know what they are doing will hurt you, and they do it anyway, well, that means they don't care. I had three, maybe more, have their actions show that they don't care about me. Well, I wish it was as simple as saying, "fuck off" but it's not, because these are all people that I care about, people that I had nothing but positive feelings for. The people who fucked my life, they were all people that I wanted around, so it's hard to just say that.

And as for myself, what I learned about myself is that I am always going to be slightly disadvantaged. My heart is so big, and so broken now, but I can never stop being who I am. Who is that? A loving, sweet, helpless, dependent, girl. I will never stop having love in my heart for people. I could have someone spit in my face, but if they are in a time of need, I would drop almost anything to help them out. I could be warned of the doucher guys, but somehow find my way into their arms. I can not be a single, and be whole. I have to have a counterpart to complete me, to bring out the best in me, and that doesn't necessarily mean a boyfriend, but a friend, just someone to be with. All these things always seem to lead me to my downfall, but you know what, someday I hope that it won't.

I don't want to be any other way than I am now. Because I will always show that I only have good intentions for everyone, and I like that. I would rather be known as a sweet heart, and do things that I know are good, and feel good about what I do, than be known as a bitch, a heart breaker, soulless, and not knowing what to feel good about. I want to know that what I do will not be looked down on. I want to be proud of my actions, always, and that's what is now important to me.

Of course, I want marcus in my life, and I begged him to take me back, and did what I felt would get him to stay with me, but will I be proud of that decision? Because I am now looked down on by so many people, and they don't understand what I do, and why I do it. Well, yes, I am proud of my decisions, because despite all of them telling me how I'll get hurt again, and how stupid I am, I know what I want to do, and nothing anyone will say will change the love I have in my heart for him. I am proud that I can do what I want, despite what people say, because I want to do it. And everything I've done shows exactly who I want to be, sweet, loving, and hopeful.

You may say he doesn't love me, and believe me, I've battled that argument in my mind, in my writing, with other people, time and time again, and maybe he doesn't, but I know that my feelings are genuine. So do I like getting kicked in the ass, in the heart, everytime i'm with him? well, the truth is, no. But for my love to still exist through the kicks in the ass, well, I think that says I'm either sick in the head, in love, or have the lowest self worth imaginable. Take it as you will.